When we were young, we gravitated towards other girls with ease. As we got older and started to desire the attentions and affections of the opposite sex (for some the desire is for the same sex, so pardon my generalizing, but this still applies) we declared I must be in a relationship. Unfortunately,when this happens, I think girls have a tendency to lose sight of themselves and each other. This desire is usually with complete abandon and not the kind where you throw caution to the wind, leap with both feet, head over heels, or what ever happens happens. The bigger concern is with the abandon of our senses, our self-reliance and esteem, and our sisterhood. I mean guys have a a mantra, albeit demeaning, "bros before hos" but what do girls say to each other? Or is it just understood that "well...I got a man now...so you understand...see ya!"
We have such a long road as women to grow and learn about ourselves
and our place in the world. There are so many stereotypes to overcome, and the limitations that are placed on us just because we were blessed with a vagina: must get married, can only be wife and mother, don't be too smart, must be sexy to get guys to like me, not as smart or strong as a man, really loves shoes, gold-digger, emotional, etc. We forget ourselves and we definitely forget to hold on to each other. Many of us abandon each other for a guy, for a relationship. Yet, guys still have guy time and what do girls do? Tag along, watch from the side lines while he has fun skateboarding, surfing, or carousing with his buds in some official guy way or we sit home and wait for him, all needy and clingy,"When will you be back?" we whine. Really?! We do have an existence outside of relationships, lives and dreams to nurture. Claim back your sisterhood. There is nothing more reassuring than the acceptance and support of a girl-friend. We truly get each other: feelings, thoughts, needs, dreams, tribulations. Not only do we need to fight for ourselves and our future, but for our sisters.
Check out this oldie: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=chysEoANK7c
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